Tyler's Blog

Single at Valentine’s

I recently put out a request on my Facebook page asking for topics people would like to hear about.  The topics my friends and readers suggested were: fear, gratitude, no Valentine, and "in the end everything will be ok".   After looking over the feedback I received,...

How Do I Forgive?

It is rare for me to hate.  The emotion itself requires a lot of energy and has little reward.  Ninety nine percent of the time I will let it go, whatever it is.  However, when the hurt goes deep, which it has, I can carve out the space for a resentment that roots and...

DOUBT

Shakespeare got it right.  The subtlety of a thought.  One thought and we are off to the races creating a belief system around which we judge ourselves and others, out of which we make choices and determine our well being or lack thereof.  How is it the whisper of...

There’s Music Inside You

After years of professionally writing songs, having had five publishing deals, and living in all three major music cities, I was completely exhausted.  My love for the craft of writing went missing.  My heart was broken.  The one consistent songwriter I'd spent years...

Put Some Stress On It.

Every so often I commit to write a blog that I later regret.  However, the concept keeps showing up, so it must be time to address it. Like about 90 billion other people, I decided to get back in shape at the New Year.  (So far, so good!  5 lbs. down)  The decision...

Finding Joy.

I remember the first time I feel in love.  It was absolutely unreal.  If you've never felt it I pray you do.  Everyone should have that at least once in their life.  I literally think I could have come off the ground and flown, if I'd focused on it hard enough.  I...

Resolutions in the midst of Reality

Hello beautiful people and Happy day two of 2013.   I decided we might ought to talk about the obvious.  It's sort of that giant pink elephant sitting in the middle of the room..... RESOLUTIONS.  Let me be honest, I haven't given a whole lot of thought to it, however,...

Waiting Alone

I have a lot of very close friends.  They are some of the best anyone could ever want, truly.  I know I can call on them, day or night and they will come.  And yet, there is that moment, when we each go home, close our front doors, and live within our own walls.  ...

Tis the Season…..

Tis the season, for highly charged emotions and unrealistic expectations.   The media has sold us a bill of goods by which we judge ourselves and our holidays.   There are these pictures of families, sitting around fireplaces, sipping hot cocoa, in houses we can...

Acceptance

I put out the request on twitter, asking for topics you wanted me to write about.  My friend Hoss ask for "acceptance".  Here you go, sister! When I first read her tweet, I felt a sinking pit in the bottom of my gut.  Acceptance, "oh great", I thought, "what now"? ...

Mixed Emotions

I want to write about loving each other, through this tender season when we are all so vulnerable.  However, I find I can't seem to summons that much-needed love in my own heart right now.  Oh of course, I can graciously embrace the less fortunate, the ill, the...

Why Did She Do That?

Lately, I've been working on a record.  Not my own, but writing and producing a young talented guy from Athens, GA.  He is the son of UGA's head coach, Mark Richt.  ( www.davidricht.com ) As you might imagine, if you're into football, this weekend was tough.  If you...

What do I need?

My family spends our Thanksgiving holiday deep in the woods of south Georgia.  We are far from cell service.  There are no computers and only one TV in the main family room.  Before every meal we form a circle, hold hands, and return thanks.  We eat together around a...

Needles & Nails

Over the past year, Miles Adcox & I, have been developing a program called The Write Workshop.  In our workshop we write a unique song for each participant based on his or her story.  The participant has usually come to the workshop because they are doing...

Flight or Freedom

I love the movies, well, let me reshape that statement.  I love hot buttered popcorn with pnut m&ms poured on top of it, ice cold coke, coupled with a dark theatre and a fantastic plot.  It is my guilty pleasure.   Recently one of my besties and I went to see...

Life, Relationships, and Being Single

I've started this blog over more times than I've started my love life over.  Where in the world do I start?   I'm single, divorced, and was told yesterday, by a woman my mother's age, "Tyler, if I were you.... I'd just go get me a baby.  They have that stuff...

What Now?

I have discovered in myself an innate ability to relive the past, to rehearse it, revisit it, and consequently to be re-wounded by it.  The past is an easy place to go.  I know exactly what's going to happen there, because it's already happened.  There are no...

SURVIVAL

I found myself in a familiar spot, letting fear and confusion, and fear of the confusion creep in.  Thoughts were pounding my head like dark waves tossing a ship in the midst of a storm.  My heart began to race.  That sinking feeling of impending doom, hovered. At...

Stay the Course

My dad once told me a story of men climbing Mt. Everest.  He explained that prior to the climb, they create a detailed plan concerning which course to take and exactly what to do with each step along the climb.  Coherent at the foot of the mountain, they realize that...

The Horses Are Restless

Today I made the hour and fifteen minute drive to Oniste, in Cumberland Furnace, TN. It is a spectacular campus, with cabins, a grand old house, three dogs, an amazing staff, and a barn full of horses.  Over the course of the last six months or so, I have developed a...

The Lesson at the Car Wash

On this lovely mild end of the summer Saturday in TN, after running hither to and yon, forgetting to connect, I found myself.... well, disjointed inside.  Confused and spiritually off-center.  Realizing I haven't had my car cleaned in about a month, yikes, I did the...

When It Feels Too Big

Sitting in the chair at the salon this morning, I felt my tummy rumble, my chest race, and my head swirl.  Anxiety! My thoughts were going ninety to nothing.  Inside were these words: I have to handle it all, but I can't handle it all, because what I need and want...

Dealing With It

Today, I am irritated.  I don't want anyone to ask me a question or look at my computer over my shoulder or walk past me, as I sit in my 'frustrated' chair.  It's rare that I'm pissy, but looks like today is rare, cause I'm fit to be tied!   However, I have learned,...

Days Like This

They say, "when the student is ready, the teacher will appear".   I am fully convinced that this truth applies to the healing of the heart as well.  We may not even realize we are ready to heal, but our spirit knows and so we begin to bubble inside.  It may feel like...

What to do, when you don’t know what to do?

From the outside looking in, my life seems well put together.   I've spent my weekend with friends.  My home is lovely, my belly full, my health excellent.  I have a kind and generous family, for the most part we have worked through the issues around our brokenness. ...

Secrets

Today I sat in a room with several friends discussing 'secrets'.  Knowing that "we are only as sick as our secrets", we shared our experiences with bringing our true selves to the light, all that we had hidden and even things we were not yet ready to reveal....

When It Hurts….

There are days your heart is going to hurt.  I have come to understand, it is simply part of life.  Some days it will be a dull ache and other times a loud and sharp break.  When it comes, our tendency is to resist, to push back the tears and fight the feelings.  We...

Right Now

I have learned so much from Byron Katie about the "story" that I tell myself, about myself, and about my life.  Her work is brilliant.  It can magically take the energy out of thought and bring the heart back to a resting pace.  She teaches us to ask one very simple...

Nothing Was Ever Wrong…..

Recently I have been struck with a recurring thought.  What if, at the end of my life, when I look into the face of God, He smiles and says, 'Tyler, nothing was every wrong.  You worried and worried and I kept trying to tell you, nothing was wrong.' For weeks this...

The Person in Front of Me

For many years, no let me be honest, this is more of a current behavior than a past one.  I have a propensity to believe if I can change a circumstance, I can change the way I feel.  So, I have the tendency to get caught up arranging life in an attempt to ensure that...

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